One of the main reasons people have trouble reaching a goal is they focus only on the end result, and not the process it will take to get there. These same people give up too easily and become frustrated when things go off-course. If this has been your experience, you may feel like you don’t have what it takes to reach your goals. You could not be more wrong.
When you are attempting to make a change, it takes the pressure off when you see the process as an experiment. Your efforts are no longer about self worth or validation, but self improvement. It is really about accepting the reality of what it takes to make the desired change.
When you first embark on making a change to your diet, schedule, relationship, or budget – it helps to realize that you are working out the kinks in your process and the objective is to figure out what works best for you. You dramatically increase the odds of reaching your goal as you increase awareness of your thoughts, feelings and actions related to the attainment of your goal. When you conduct experiments before setting your goal, you are jump-starting positive change and setting yourself up for success. You begin to enjoy the journey of reaching a goal.
You will never be immobilized by fear of failing again. An experimental mindset frees your mind and allows you to let go of performance anxiety and fear of defeat. Failure becomes feedback on how to improve. If an experiment fails, you don’t quit. You learn as much from the little failures and as you do the big wins. You don’t give up on your important goals, you simply let go of a process go that isn’t working and try a new one. This will keep you in the right frame of mind to find your way through unforeseen circumstances and generate break-through thinking that will set you free.
